The content of gender stereotypes, according to which women should display communal and warmth traits, be sensitive, caring and men should display authority, domination, strong, powerful, competence traits, is reflected in the language style choices of everyday communication. Due to evaluations, mindsets and roles are changing but still we are saying: real men never cry.

I would say that mixture of men and female features in one person is the best option.

Masculinity. Mature masculinity as a presence in here and now and immature is looking for confirmation, identification, enters into stories, believes in own thoughts.

Mature masculinity leads others, immature competes. I want to be better than you, if someone wins, another must lose, the one who loses does not like that who won. The partnership is better, the cooperation is more effective. So what if I have the right arguments as you may not like it. I want to lead and not to destroy others. Leadership is when I realize your needs better than you do. Leadership is not the way I exterminate you because it is tyranny. Key is understanding own role and goals.

Self-confidence instead of arrogance, self-confidence as an awareness of my own values based on the facts. Arrogance assumes superiority, self-confidence, and no sensitivity to promote oneself. Creating a sense of security instead of thinking about yourself.

Emotional sensitivity instead of being macho. No meed to show domination, we are use force once we afraid. We need strength when we defend ourselves, but outside of such situations, we need communication. Supporting – masculinity supports, wants the other people to grow and immature judges and humiliates, it is built at the expense of someone else, a scoffer, humiliating others to feel better. The fact of cutting someone’s head will not make the other party grow, but taking care of the development of the other person allows later to model it. People learn by copying examples and not by being forced to do something. Self-awareness, not narcissism.

Conscious communication, precise expression of what is happening, without dominating. The ability to enjoy what you have. The perseverance in pursuing a goal is to respect your potential.

Femininity. Intuitiveness – using another form of understanding reality, I feel (gut feeling) instead of rationalization – explaining what I feel. Unconditional instead of fear of losing control. I fell in love – I throw things because this feeling is the most important to me.

Grace, being nice, warm, kindness instead of superficiality and artificial interest. This grace is the beauty and attraction going from inside, instead of exterior. Partnership instead of seduction (seem as taking the man’s soul, personality, willingness to control). In the past what men gained by force, women gained by seduction. Perhaps the partnership model is better.

Freedom instead of being a victim, other people cannot embrace our mind, it’s just stories. Awareness of self-worth instead of seeking acceptance and approval by others, external approval. Empathy instead of sulks. Fear of being weak, fear of rejection. Grounding in reality instead of in dreams and stories. Assertiveness and sensitivity. Ability of assertive, warm speaking No response. Developing characteristics and turning them into behaviors.

Only being a man and a woman allows us to achieve the balance we need. We confuse a set of features and competences with the gender – it seems to us that something is not masculine or not feminine. At one time, it was not masculine to smile. Over a time we have different models of masculinity created in movies. The best is to keep a balance in feminine and masculinity features.

Conscious communication

• Speak as precisely as possible – so that the other side will understand you in one particular way
• Do not leave space for interpretation – it could cause unnecessary conflicts
• Instead of saying “You’re weird”, introduce what you did not like about the behavior of the other person or how you reacted to them, e.g: “Your behavior is incomprehensible to me”
• Build a discussion based on understanding, not mutual objections
• Be constructive. When you notice a problem, present a solution instead of immersing yourself in a difficult situation without giving constructive feedback
• Do not stop at the stage of diagnosing the problem, but do everything to find a solution – the best three different
• Use comparisons during the conversation – your partner should identify with them and fully understand how you feel, they must be adapted to his or her own experience
• Communicate using your partner’s communication style; if he likes gesticulation, try to complement his words with appropriate gestures
• During the conversation do not impose your point of view on the other person
• Take into account his / her experiences, needs and feelings, refrain from negative reactions that can irritate, stress or simply cloud your partner, such behaviors include: interruption, yawning, lack of eye contact, closed body position, blaming, generalizing, using the telephone
• Confirm what you have understood from the interview that what has been communicated is important to you, refer to what your partner said
• Dialogue is not a monologue