Well, I forgot to write but yes I do want to share my experiences and help others and myself with self – coaching. Indeed, I need to promise myself to be more systematic. Public promise is much more effective as always.

Your internal dialogue it is simply your thoughts……. It is the silent voice in your head that comments on your life, whether that is what is going on around you, or what you are thinking consciously or sub-consciously. You can argue with another person all day in your mind.  Ridiculous but how true.

All of us have an internal dialogue, and it runs all the time. Sometimes it is even disturbing and people live in other reality, dimension that is in their minds. Yes it is important to think but a bit more what you think as your thoughts can affect your mood, self-confidence and self-esteem, your relations with others. Our thoughts are driven by emotions or experiences. Unhappy thoughts can have negative effect on your mood and entire life.

Being able to have a positive internal dialogue, and look on the bright side, can help you feel more positive, empowered and improve your mood. It is good to learn how to manage your internal dialogue as it is likely to be important for both mental well-being, and potentially, success in life.

Step 1 You need to become aware of your internal dialogue

I remember once a coach said to me about it, I was so surprised that he knows that I have internal dialogue and also that everyone has it. Good, so I accepted the reality and that I am not odd or crazy to have such ‘other dimension’ in my brain. My internal talks long time ago were rather negative and pessimistic. I have changed it and learnt how to manage it in case of challenging situation.

Meditation, reflection very helps to concentrate on your thoughts. Another technique is to consciously think: I wonder what my next thought will be. Whether this disrupts your internal dialogue, or just distracts your brain, it seems to give some space for the brain to become aware of what it happening an analyze the types of thoughts you have in your brain (whether you tend to think positively or negatively; past, present, or future thoughts; whether you tend to think about wanting more good things, or fewer bad ones, or whether you spend time trying to understand how things relate to each other).

Step 2 If Necessary, Changing Your Internal Dialogue

Once you have become more aware of what you are thinking, and the kinds of patterns that your thoughts tend to make, you can then do something about changing them, if necessary.

Think Positively, not Negatively

It is easy to fall into the trap of criticizing yourself all the time, blaming because we failed to achieve something so no need to start something new or again as the result is obvious… No, for sure our brain doesn’t support us in that moment and we need to change it.

It is important to try to avoid negative thinking in your internal dialogue.

One way to do this is to consciously change what you are thinking. If you ‘hear’ yourself thinking something negative, focus on something positive instead. For example, instead of thinking about what you did wrong, think about what you will do differently next time, or what you have learnt, or what you did well.

More methods and technics will come in new article soon. Stay tuned!:)