Power couple model. Happiness and inspiration, strength and power

Why we are in partnership, why we want to be with another person?

We want to be happy and supported. We have a hope that other person will realize our needs and understand us. It will be good if we could communicate our needs in the way that other person understand. Love is nothing that is given forever, we need to care about it each day and able to give and communicate what we would appreciate to receive, celebrate small and big achievements together. If we do not realize partner’s needs then the other person will be depressed, unhappy and eventually will try to find these needs satisfaction outside the relationship. That is not surprising and in addition mutually caused. Blaming another person is the way how we want to then justify our lack of understanding and actions. We shouldn’t limit other person but support and appreciate his/her development. The couples who don’t have clear goals and visions and mutual understanding don’t last.20190304_142602

The power couple model gives a sense of security and space for joint and individual development of both partners. Together they are more stronger and powerful. One supports the other in being himself, it does not limit him/her. They both know what they want in life and they’re willing to help each other to get there. Everyone works on their emotions and behaviors, knowing that he/she is responsible for them.

She does not look for a knight on a white horse or a hero in him. He does not need a princess…They build trust, strength, conscious communication. Such relationship stimulates one’s own actions to achieve much more being together. Partners in power couple are more productive, motivated and creative. They have greater attitude towards empathy, emotion control, positive thinking, developing gratitude  and being thankful to the partner.

Be honest and faithful

Your insecurities, your worries, your failures, your weaknesses. Let it out and don’t hold back. Honesty will help you be your true, authentic selves. And the only way you’re going to reach the heights you’re aiming for is if you can be who you really are. It’s only by revealing your deepest insecurities that you’ll be able to protect each other through the dark times and rise the ladder of success together.20190222_172351

The power couple understand each other’s goals and dreams and don’t hide any insecurities and fears. They’re each other’s biggest fans, supporting one another through thick and thin. They motivate each other to reach their potential. They’re in love with each other, but they don’t “need” each other to survive. They’re perfectly okay spending time apart, because they know it’ll be even more special when they meet again.

They’re both optimistic. Their attitude pushes them through tough times together. When one of them is dealing with challenges, the other one helps them look on the bright side and see the best in every situation. This is what helps them succeed even when it feels like there’s no way out.

Does the relationship take more energy than it gives?

Trust comes from a sense of internal comfort. It emerges from within rather than as a result of trying to control everything your partner does. If you don’t trust your partner on some fundamental level, you’ve got some work to do for yourself. If you think it’s fine to jump on your partner’s phone the minute they exit the room, and if you’ve ever looked at your partner’s phone without their consent, you are getting time to exit.

Growth is obviously something we want from being with someone. But if your partner isn’t who you want him/her to be today, you’re not in the right relationship. Sure, people change and grow over their lives, but you’re going to ruin your partner’s if your happiness is contingent on them changing. If the price of being in your relationship means you can’t be who you truly are, that’s too high a price. The relationships should help you grow into the best version of yourself. If yours makes you feel like you’re playing a role instead of playing yourself, it’s time to jump a ship.

Some folks boost our energy reserves. Others drain us dry. In reality, we each have choices

We’re constantly looking for ways to find harmony on our plates, in our bodies and throughout our lives. It’s often more comfortable to stay in the broken places rather than risk the glorious (and terrifying) unknown. There are countless rational excuses that keep us stuck. One of my favorites: timing. This is the worst time to make a change. I’m too busy, too tired, too broke, too needy, too depressed, too not-enough. There’s another side to this story— the one that takes your well-being into account. Is it ever a good time to stuff your feelings and soldier on? To exhaust yourself mentally and physically? Is it ever a good time to operate from a place of shame or guilt? Or, continually repeat the same behavior that created the problems in the first place? Habitually attempting to fix the unfixable is crazy-making.

It is good to honor your uniqueness, listen to your heart, know and be loyal to yourself and be brave in order to find yourself and a power couple model, person, who would like to know your expectations, realize your needs and supports you in achieving joint and individual goals.

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If I speak in the tongues of men and of angels, but have no love, I am only a ringing gong or a clanging cymbal. If I have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have absolute faith so as to move mountains, but have no love, I am nothing. If I give all I possess to the poor and exult in the surrender of my body, but have no love, I gain nothing.

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no account of wrongs.  Love takes no pleasure in evil, but rejoices in the truth. It bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never fails.

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Male and female personal mixture. Conscious communication

The content of gender stereotypes, according to which women should display communal and warmth traits, be sensitive, caring and men should display authority, domination, strong, powerful, competence traits, is reflected in the language style choices of everyday communication. Due to evaluations, mindsets and roles are changing but still we are saying: real men never cry.

I would say that mixture of men and female features in one person is the best option.

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MasculinityMature masculinity as a presence in here and now and immature is looking for confirmation, identification, enters into stories, believes in own thoughts.

Mature masculinity leads others, immature competes. I want to be better than you, if someone wins, another must lose, the one who loses does not like that who won. The partnership is better, the cooperation is more effective. So what if I have the right arguments as you may not like it. I want to lead and not to destroy others. Leadership is when I realize your needs better than you do. Leadership is not the way I exterminate you because it is tyranny. Key is understanding own role and goals.

Self-confidence instead of arrogance, self-confidence as an awareness of my own values based on the facts. Arrogance assumes superiority, self-confidence, and no sensitivity to promote oneself. Creating a sense of security instead of thinking about yourself.

Emotional sensitivity instead of being macho. No meed to show domination, we are use force once we afraid. We need strength when we defend ourselves, but outside of such situations, we need communication. Supporting – masculinity supports, wants the other people to grow and immature judges and humiliates, it is built at the expense of someone else, a scoffer, humiliating others to feel better. The fact of cutting someone’s head will not make the other party grow, but taking care of the development of the other person allows later to model it. People learn by copying examples and not by being forced to do something. Self-awareness, not narcissism.

Conscious communication, precise expression of what is happening, without dominating. The ability to enjoy what you have. The perseverance in pursuing a goal is to respect your potential.

Femininity. Intuitiveness – using another form of understanding reality, I feel (gut feeling) instead of rationalization – explaining what I feel. Unconditional instead of fear of losing control. I fell in love – I throw things because this feeling is the most important to me.

Grace, being nice, warm, kindness instead of superficiality and artificial interest. This grace is the beauty and attraction going from inside, instead of exterior. Partnership instead of seduction (seem as taking the man’s soul, personality, willingness to control). In the past what men gained by force, women gained by seduction. Perhaps the partnership model is better.

Freedom instead of being a victim, other people cannot embrace our mind, it’s just stories. Awareness of self-worth instead of seeking acceptance and approval by others, external approval. Empathy instead of sulks. Fear of being weak, fear of rejection. Grounding in reality instead of in dreams and stories. Assertiveness and sensitivity. Ability of assertive, warm speaking No response. Developing characteristics and turning them into behaviors.

Only being a man and a woman allows us to achieve the balance we need. We confuse a set of features and competences with the gender – it seems to us that something is not masculine or not feminine. At one time, it was not masculine to smile. Over a time we have different models of masculinity created in movies. The best is to keep a balance in feminine and masculinity features.

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Conscious communication

  • Speak as precisely as possible – so that the other side will understand you in one particular way
  • Do not leave space for interpretation – it could cause unnecessary conflicts
  • Instead of saying “You’re weird”, introduce what you did not like about the behavior of the other person or how you reacted to them, e.g: “Your behavior is incomprehensible to me”
  • Build a discussion based on understanding, not mutual objections
  • Be constructive. When you notice a problem, present a solution instead of immersing yourself in a difficult situation without giving constructive feedback
  • Do not stop at the stage of diagnosing the problem, but do everything to find a solution – the best three different
  • Use comparisons during the conversation – your partner should identify with them and fully understand how you feel, they must be adapted to his or her own experience
  • Communicate using your partner’s communication style; if he likes gesticulation, try to complement his words with appropriate gestures
  • During the conversation do not impose your point of view on the other person
  • Take into account his / her experiences, needs and feelings, refrain from negative reactions that can irritate, stress or simply cloud your partner, such behaviors include: interruption, yawning, lack of eye contact, closed body position, blaming, generalizing, using the telephone
  • Confirm what you have understood from the interview that what has been communicated is important to you, refer to what your partner said
  • Dialogue is not a monologue