emotions – Blog Marleny Wach

My other half

It is special time for me since the beginning of 2020. Time when I had been suddenly sick and realized how much and from whom I can get support and I also understood what is missing in my live. My strong independence attitude and approach to have a lot of challenges at the same time and rushing up with everything gradually has changed.

New normal

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Our current new normal situation is indeed challenging from many perspective as we don’t really know our enemy and how to fight and how long it takes. We were distracted entirely from our daily routine and was put into our new social distancing reality. We are reading a lot of press information and after all we are more and more sick and pessimistic and sharing this mood around people that are close. After a while all people around complaining, are anxious, worries, scared and have a lot of fears. As a result their body immune system is weaker and more susceptible to diseases. I don’t think it is the best approach and that we want to our kids to have such attitude too.

Rational and factual approach

Maybe better is to read information from reliable sources, be more factual, asking questions if all these different scenarios in our mind are based on real fact or it is our imagination or perception, what is probability that something will happen. Our reactions should be adequate and proportional. We can ask others not how it’s going but how they are feeling…. We would need to continue our healthy habits as workout, jogging, walking or reading. We can adjust them to our new normal but still really try to continue them and not just use current covid situation as excuse to spend all time in passive way e.g. in front of any screens (TV, iPad, mobile).

It is temporary, be smart and adopt

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Current situation is temporary and it is great to use it in efficient way, take online courses, continue our passions or get back to previous hobbies, learn how to do some things, e.g. cooking. This is a time for smart people to turn out such situation with opportunity and for sure each of us is clever enough to do so and adopt. We can do some planning and stabilize things that we are able to manage and control, have plan A, B and C. It is good to balance our live and breathing, meditate, train our focus, consideration, reflection. It is really no need to follow wrong or catastrophic conclusions. It is also good to avoid people that are all time in a panic mode. Focus how to help yourself and be resilience enough to help others. Sharing appreciation and acceptance will make you also happy and fulfilled.

I will write about stress situation vs. communication soon. Stay tuned and physical, emotional healthy!

Happy Easter to All that celebrate!

“Holding onto anger is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die”

Forgiveness is a gift you give yourself. It is the right to be free, to not allow anyone or anything from the past to bind you in your current actions.

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When we don’t forgive, we keep alive those energy that bind us to the person that hurt us, or to the pain itself. Not forgiving holds us back from experiencing the full range of positive emotions, because the energy we might otherwise devote to living joyously in our own experience is being used up on a particularly painful experience that we can no longer control.

Many people live their lives hating people or events from their past, allowing these things to cloud their present day experience. You need to forgive yourself and move on from the past.

It frees us from anger, harm and bitterness, emotions that not only don’t feel good but they can also ruin our physical health and hold us back from all the good we might achieve and experience. Forgiveness releases your energy and give you a space to develop. When you forgive, you’re giving a gift of mental, emotional, and spiritual freedom to yourself.

Release your bitter feelings. We need to forgive ourselves first. Why it is so difficult?

When we’ve done something wrong, we register it in our nervous system. A mistake that costs us something we want might have sadness attached to it. If we try to forgive ourselves for something without releasing the underlying emotion or belief we’ve attached to it, the forgiveness just doesn’t take. To release that part of your past that you need to forgive, it’s helpful to remember that we’re all doing the best we can in any moment.

Acknowledge your feelings related to the situation and actually feel them

In order to forgive ourselves, we first have to admit to ourselves that we did something wrong. We have to take ownership and acknowledge the mistake. Please do not changing the past in your mind by trying cleaned up yourself, and just admit that something had happened. It’s helpful to remember that mistakes, failures and even incredibly stupid acts are part of being human. It’s how we learn and grow.

When you really love someone, isn’t it easier to forgive and see it as a one-time event? Do you have such loving, trusting relationship with yourselves?

Many of us are much more critical of ourselves than we are of others. We’ll give other people the benefit of the doubt, but won’t give ourselves any slack at all. When you’re dealing with a person you don’t trust or like, you can choose to forgive, release the hurt, and simply not maintain contact with such person anymore. With yourself? Not an option. You don’t get to quit or walk away from yourself.

You need to get your relationship with you to be more positive. It is extremely helpful to establish self-acceptance and self-love. Eliminate from your mind negative emotions. Make the choice to forgive yourself and others.

Forgiveness is a choice. It doesn’t just happen. And you may need to forgive again and again sometimes until that becomes your New normal. Forgiveness is not about accepting another’s actions and definitely doesn’t mean we condone certain behavior or allow any further abuse.We don’t need to trust someone or something in order to forgive, and we don’t need to invite someone over for coffee or tea because we’ve decided to cut the cords of suffering.

When forgiving another, we are not releasing them from what they have done. Forgiveness isn’t even about the other person. The choice to forgive is always a gift we give ourselves.

Holding a grudge against someone for a past event does not effect the other person in any way, it only effects you so release yourself from the past and enjoy the right to be free.

“Forgiveness does not change the past but it does enlarge the future” Paul Boese

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