You should write down your goals

Any road will get you there, if you don’t know where you are going, Lewis Carroll

Usually we hear a lot about the importance of goal-setting but most of us don’t have clear and measurable goals to work toward. Goal setting is an important component of living your most happy life.  Goals allow us to grow, to improve, to step into new versions of ourselves. Goals step by step realization can improve your chances not only of achieving what you set out to do, but also of ensuring that your goals are truly in alignment with what you want.  

What do you really want to create for yourself? What does your ideal life look like? Don’t be afraid to think big.

The first step to creating a goal is to figure out what you want. If you don’t know what you want, you don’t know what you need to achieve to get there. It’s important to get clarity on what you really value and hold true for yourself.  If you set a goal based on some external influence, another person’s value system or simply to please someone, you’re much more likely to fail shortly. Goals become powerful and transformative when there are strong emotional drivers backing them. You need to find out why this would create a happier life. You need to write down your goals. Use emotions and feelings to give new depth to why it matters to you.  You need to transfer yourself to that future moment in time once you will achieve the goal. How will you feel?  

Taking thoughtful action steps but these steps will be far more effective once you’ve got the clarity of what you’re doing and why you’re doing it.  

The power of visualizing your goals

The idea behind visualizing your goals is that if you “see” your goal, you are more likely to achieve Take note of the details. What does your day look like? Where are you living? Try to incorporate all senses in your vision to make it most effective. Focus on details, limit distractions, turn off your cell phone. Visualize what do you see, hear, smell, taste and feel throughout this ideal day. It teaches your brain to recognize what resources it will need to help you succeed in reaching your goals. It creates an inner motivation to strive for your goals and dreams It promotes positive thinking  which will help you to stay on track to be successful in the long run.

The neurons in our brain interpret images as real life. So when you visualize doing things, your body is creating pathways and memories of how to do that action even though you never actually performed the action. I think it is wonderful attitude and worth to use it.  Visualization is a tool for reaching success and your goals. It works alongside hard work, surrounding yourself with good people, and pushing yourself to be your very best. 

Make it measurable

Take your vision and turn it into a written list of concrete goals. If in your ideal world you are working for yourself. Choose an achievable time frame to accomplish your goals as well as measurable details so you know exactly when you’ve achieved them. Most of our goals are a build-up of many small achievements. Break big steps into smaller and smaller steps until goals seem less daunting and achievable. Benchmarks are a great way to keep you on track. Adjust your expectations and timeline as you gather more information while achieving your aims.

Celebrate your success, these small one and big

The most important part of goal-setting is celebrating our successes. As we journey to the realization of our goals, it’s important to remember our vision. Why we want something can provide us with the motivation and determination to continue to work toward it even when things don’t go as planned or are more difficult than we anticipated.

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Storytelling

I was saying to my son goodnight today and it is always this miracle moment to which we are waiting for all day. I thought say to him my story about motivation and be inspired by one of my teacher to love biology and then how I have made my own choices seeking friends from which I could learn something and supporting others with quite clear approach what I want to achieve.

We need to create ourselves thinking who is the person that listen you. We cannot be the same for our kids, at work and for our life partner. We have different brands adjusted to different expectations and targeted groups. We cannot mix this up. Lecturer at University needs to switch to parent role and husband at home and not still teaching wife and kids at home. It is still authentic you, the same person but with different brands (different language, voice, look, cloths, behavior etc.).

Storytelling scheme: when, where, how, what, why, for what, who, with whom. Message, conflict, characters, plot.

Storytelling as a branding tool is not about telling stories just for the sake of it. Storytelling is about using stories to communicate messages that reflect positively on the brand. Therefore, first you must develop a clearly defined message.

Conflict is the driving force of a good story. No conflict, no story. As humans we instinctively look for balance and harmony in our lives. As soon as harmony is disrupted we do whatever we can to restore it. When faced with a problem, we instinctively seek to find a solution. Conflict forces us to act. Therefore, we need to get our message across through conflict and its resolution.

We have seen how conflict marks the turning point in the story, but in order for this conflict to play out, you need a cast of interacting and compelling characters. In order to get personally involved with a story, we must be able to identify with the characters. The audience must be able to identify with both the hero and the problem. Based on our need to have balance in our lives we will usually emphasise with a person faced with a conflict.

Once your message, conflict and cast of characters are all in place, it is time to think about how your story should progress. The flow of the story and its events are vital to the audience’s experience. Given the fact that we can only tell one thing at a time, and that a story exists only as a progression of events within a given time span, the sequence of events needs careful consideration. It must have a precise structure to run it forward and maintain audience interest.

Speak as if you were talking to a friend, give your power, be emotional, touchy, make you all, tell and leave.

Build your story for others

If you do not say someone about your problems but expecting him to help you, the other person cannot help you and satisfy her/his needs to help (self-realization). Therefore, both people feel bad. If your wife wants to support you then you need to tell her what is in your life. If you will say to her always that everything is fine so with such approach you cannot satisfy her needs to help….and she feel unnecessary. It doesn’t work and create conflict.

If you complain, you attract people like yourself and then you get the feeling that everyone is complaining (an isolated world that seems real to you). Then you only strengthen the story you tell yourself. Individual story, group story, collective story.

When you come back from work and always say that you are tired, your partner will never offer you sports activities at weekend, even if you would like it, because you have wrongly built your brand for her/him. The end is…because I thought that….. you are tired.

How Do You See Yourself?

What is your opinion about yourself? Do you like yourself and know your strength and weakness… How much you care about what others think about you?

The way people feel about themselves is formed during the time of growing up by the way their parents or other close family members felt about them and treated them during that time. Those who grow up with low self-esteem because they were criticized, guyed in childchood continue to hold that opinion stubbornly in the face.  What we learn during these formative years could have enormous effect on the rest of life. Ideally people should be resistant to the bad opinion of others if they were growing up thinking well of themselves learn it from their parents. 

Your opinion about yourself create your life quality. How much you are concerned about anyone’s opinion would depend who is the author of that opinion and what that opinion was. If you will have low opinion about yourself than you can be dependent of someone who has much better opinion on you than you have. You need to be motivated by someone and receive support.

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I have PH.D. in philosophy =>  yes ok, but not in economy……..I have well build body  => yes because you are taking steroid, and I speak 3 languages => yes, but you are not perfect in any of them and have bad stress….

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Mom I do not think I can do it => I know my son, that you cannot make it, it’s too hard for you and it’s happened. Boss, you probably will not give me a salary raise. Well, no, I agree with you that you do not earned for this. 

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The best situation as you are convinced about your values and receive support from others. Of course it is good to understand your values but also know what type of person you create in others eyes once communicate.

I imagine your mind, and especially what your mind thinks about my mind, and what your mind thinks about what my mind thinks about your mind. Charles Horton Cooley.

All people want to be liked and be appreciated for talents or personality. But if we have a weak self-image, if we believe that the opinion of others are more important than our own, we can end up living our lives in accordance to other peoples´ expectations. Sometimes, others evaluations mean more to us than our own so others´ opinion of you can run your life.

We are not consciously aware that we often try to conform to the image that we imagine other people expect from us. If a person develops a negative self-image the self-esteem will tend to be low.  Low self esteem and poor self-image has long been associated with a whole range of psychological problems. We should develop a self-image that is more based on our own evaluations rather than how we believe others look at us.

Positive mental health

Four important areas that we need to focus:

  • body (nutrition, sleeping, exercise, digital detox);
  • mind (productive, focused,  innovative & learning, leveraging strengths);
  • heart (connected, trust-based relationships, feeling valued, inclusion);
  • soul (passion & intent, volunteering, legacy).

Please remember, that all of these areas are key to our holistic health.

Stress is very often a precursor to common mental health conditions, like anxiety and like depression. If it is unmanaged, ends in typically a bad place. Stress is the number one health related reasons for lost productivity. From a behavioral perspective, people can become withdrawn. They start to lose a sense of enjoyment in the things that they would have typically enjoyed.

It can result in more aggressive behaviour. It can often result in poor sleep, which tends to increase that cycle of poor mental health that people are experiencing. Obviously from an emotional perspective it increased level of anxiety, fear, frustration, fatigue.

So what is it that we need in life? – the angel cocktail. These are the chemicals that are good for us and that we want in our lives. We want dopamine, which is responsible for focus and motivation. We want oxytocin, which is often referred to as the love or the bliss chemical. We want serotonin which is to do with our happiness and endorphins, which help to make us feel good about ourselves.

How do we start to get some of these chemicals to help boost the way that we feel every day? Outside the support that we can get from our friends and loved ones and the networks that we have, there’s a lot that we can do for ourselves…..

Exercise – regardless whether you’re doing a small walk or a long jog, playing football, whatever it is that you might be doing, this is the chemical reaction that takes place when you do exercise. Exercises reduces the risk of depression by up to 20 percent and also to improve our complex decision making as well.  

Nutrition – proper food, green tea instead of coffee, vitamin D, B complex

Sleep – it is vital to how we function every day (7-9 hours’ sleep). Think how you prepare to get enough sleep (between 10 and 2 we get our most restorative processes). Consider that the temperature of your room – 18 degrees, get devices down, that have blue ray which tricks the brain into thinking that it’s still day time.

Mindfulness – we have between 50,000 and 70,000 thoughts a day, Thoughts are going to come and they’re going to come all day every day. That’s what the brain does. The science is showing that 70 percent of our thoughts are negative. Those negative thoughts are having a real impact on us in the now, in the moment and it is impacting out health both physically and mentally as well. You need to exercise how to be focused. Practice small, start with kind of 2-5 minutes exercises and make it as part of your routine. We tend to be worried about what people are thinking, what’s going on. Mindfulness is very powerful way of bringing yourself back to the moment, being focused on what needs to be done and enabling you to live that happier, more fulfilled life in the moment.NYC & TX 504