What is your opinion about yourself? Do you like yourself and know your strength and weakness… How much you care about what others think about you?

The way people feel about themselves is formed during the time of growing up by the way their parents or other close family members felt about them and treated them during that time. Those who grow up with low self-esteem because they were criticized, guyed in childchood continue to hold that opinion stubbornly in the face.  What we learn during these formative years could have enormous effect on the rest of life. Ideally people should be resistant to the bad opinion of others if they were growing up thinking well of themselves learn it from their parents. 

Your opinion about yourself create your life quality. How much you are concerned about anyone’s opinion would depend who is the author of that opinion and what that opinion was. If you will have low opinion about yourself than you can be dependent of someone who has much better opinion on you than you have. You need to be motivated by someone and receive support.

I have PH.D. in philosophy =>  yes ok, but not in economy……..I have well build body  => yes because you are taking steroid, and I speak 3 languages => yes, but you are not perfect in any of them and have bad stress….

Mom I do not think I can do it => I know my son, that you cannot make it, it’s too hard for you and it’s happened. Boss, you probably will not give me a salary raise. Well, no, I agree with you that you do not earned for this. 

The best situation as you are convinced about your values and receive support from others. Of course it is good to understand your values but also know what type of person you create in others eyes once communicate.

I imagine your mind, and especially what your mind thinks about my mind, and what your mind thinks about what my mind thinks about your mind. Charles Horton Cooley.

All people want to be liked and be appreciated for talents or personality. But if we have a weak self-image, if we believe that the opinion of others are more important than our own, we can end up living our lives in accordance to other peoples´ expectations. Sometimes, others evaluations mean more to us than our own so others´ opinion of you can run your life.

We are not consciously aware that we often try to conform to the image that we imagine other people expect from us. If a person develops a negative self-image the self-esteem will tend to be low.  Low self esteem and poor self-image has long been associated with a whole range of psychological problems. We should develop a self-image that is more based on our own evaluations rather than how we believe others look at us.

Four important areas that we need to focus:

• body (nutrition, sleeping, exercise, digital detox);
• mind (productive, focused,  innovative & learning, leveraging strengths);
• heart (connected, trust-based relationships, feeling valued, inclusion);
• soul (passion & intent, volunteering, legacy).

Please remember, that all of these areas are key to our holistic health.

Stress is very often a precursor to common mental health conditions, like anxiety and like depression. If it is unmanaged, ends in typically a bad place. Stress is the number one health related reasons for lost productivity. From a behavioral perspective, people can become withdrawn. They start to lose a sense of enjoyment in the things that they would have typically enjoyed.

It can result in more aggressive behaviour. It can often result in poor sleep, which tends to increase that cycle of poor mental health that people are experiencing. Obviously from an emotional perspective it increased level of anxiety, fear, frustration, fatigue.

So what is it that we need in life? – the angel cocktail. These are the chemicals that are good for us and that we want in our lives. We want dopamine, which is responsible for focus and motivation. We want oxytocin, which is often referred to as the love or the bliss chemical. We want serotonin which is to do with our happiness and endorphins, which help to make us feel good about ourselves.

How do we start to get some of these chemicals to help boost the way that we feel every day? Outside the support that we can get from our friends and loved ones and the networks that we have, there’s a lot that we can do for ourselves…..

Exercise – regardless whether you’re doing a small walk or a long jog, playing football, whatever it is that you might be doing, this is the chemical reaction that takes place when you do exercise. Exercises reduces the risk of depression by up to 20 percent and also to improve our complex decision making as well.  

Nutrition – proper food, green tea instead of coffee, vitamin D, B complex

Sleep – it is vital to how we function every day (7-9 hours’ sleep). Think how you prepare to get enough sleep (between 10 and 2 we get our most restorative processes). Consider that the temperature of your room – 18 degrees, get devices down, that have blue ray which tricks the brain into thinking that it’s still day time.

Mindfulness – we have between 50,000 and 70,000 thoughts a day, Thoughts are going to come and they’re going to come all day every day. That’s what the brain does. The science is showing that 70 percent of our thoughts are negative. Those negative thoughts are having a real impact on us in the now, in the moment and it is impacting out health both physically and mentally as well. You need to exercise how to be focused. Practice small, start with kind of 2-5 minutes exercises and make it as part of your routine. We tend to be worried about what people are thinking, what’s going on. Mindfulness is very powerful way of bringing yourself back to the moment, being focused on what needs to be done and enabling you to live that happier, more fulfilled life in the moment.